Sextra: 10 Tips To Get Your Fellatio Game Right

Ladies do you have troubles keeping a man? Do you have a man at all? If you answered yes to one or both of these questions, get your head game right. And you can get and keep a man with great ease. No man will dispute the fact that he loves to get head and will never discourage you from forever fabulous fellatio. But the key word here is: discourage. Ladies, you must, first, want to perform. No man wants a girl to look unhappy or disgusted by giving him that goody so it would behoove any woman to enjoy the act of pleasuring your man, with a good attitude. If you want to acquire or keep a man, these 10 tips will prove great success.

1.) Get Involved - In order to peak his interest, you have to have to create the scene, men are extremely visual. Make the bed super sexy with some dark colored, soft sheets, light a few candles and be prepared, i.e. condoms. lube, cocktails and perhaps a bowl of strawberries or grapes. Make sure he knows he has your undivided attention, close and lock door, and slowly undress that man.
2.) Take your time - At this point, he's already anticipating your next move, and whatever you do at this point is sure to turn him on. Take your time, don't jump right in start slobbing, you'll only tire out your jaws very quickly. Give him some time to be excited. Don't be predictable. The power of touch is to often overlooked, suck his fingers, graze his chest with your mouth, lick his lips, you get it.
3.) Be eager and enthusiastic - you should be thrilled at the thought alone of your dude being in the palm of your hands (literally), whisper what your going to do to him, but be sexy of course. Dirty talk is good. Ask him how he wants it and make sure he can see and watch you and eye contact is a must! Remember this is an experience not a fleeting moment.
4.) Increase Arousal - once you commence your oral escapade, try a variety of moves and pay attention to how he responds. Once you find something he really enjoys, switch it up on him. Now you know how to get him off, so keep that in mind for the finale. In the meantime, allow him to escape while you try new things. Take your time with it. Sidebar: don't get offended if he pulls your hair, it only means he loves it!
5.) Play with your mouth - pull your lips into a firm circle, this technique will probably make a popping sound, but don't soften your lips to avoid the noise, he'll love it. Be sure to either spit or keep your mouth extra wet. Also, be so careful not to graze him with your teeth.
6.) Try hard suction - try to create the vacuum effect. In order to this successfully you have to mimic a vacuum, meaning maintain a tightness and pressure in your lips and mouth. Most men like to be sucked hard, so don't scared to do so, a lot of times he'll appreciate the strong sensation.
7.) Don't forget the head - the head is the most sensitive part of the penis, so don't neglect it! Give it s few quick licks in between your moves or take it back as far as you can so he can get the "deep throat" sensation. This is a technique that improves with time, but while you're trying, expect to gag a time or two.
8.) Use your hands - your hands should never be lying dormant! For starters, the best thing to do is stroke the shaft while you're sucking, or hold the base. Do not put the man's parts in a choke hold, a firm grip is best. Once you get him good and worked up, use your hand to draw his shaft into your mouth and keep your hand closely in front of your mouth while you stroke.
9.) Do some ball play - testicular play heightens his arousal. But first, apply little pressure to see if he's likes it. Most guys like to have their balls cupped while you're sucking. But don't go pressing on the actual balls, just pull the sac downward and away from his shaft. This is also a way to give your jaws a break, lick and suck his testicular area while you stroke the shaft.
10.) Don't stop - when you start to get the feeling he's about to climax, whatever you do, don't stop! In fact, it's best you quicken the pace a bit and keep doing exactly what your doing, don't switch anything up orally! At most, play with his balls. Make sure you moan or hum a little bit for vibrational stimulation also. Swallowing or spitting is a completely personal decision, but your man will be 2 minutes short of proposing.

How to control your gag reflex

Here's a little useful info i came across :)

Step 1First, understand that your gag reflex is a reflex action. find out where your gag reflexes start. Starting from the tip of the tongue, to where you first begin to gag, is how far it stretches. Once you can put a finger on that, (no pun intended) you can begin learning how to control it.

Step 2The gag reflex is a contraction at the back of your throat which stops objects entering the throat except as part of normal swallowing. But, you can re train your reflexes, so that your mate will obtain the utmost pleasure. sometimes you may have the feeling of loss of control and panic. Don't panic.. Remember it's training your reflex and tongue to do something different then normally.

Step 3Here's how to make it so you never upset your partner by gagging again; You will slightly enhance something you already do everyday! Brush your tongue right where your gag begins. People you will gag. It will be nasty,not for long, but just think of the many compliments you will get! Spend about 10 seconds brushing that area (and gagging), and call it a night.
Repeat the process over the next few nights in the exact same spot. You'll notice you gag less each time you do it.
Increase the brushing area. Once you can touch your toothbrush on that spot without gagging, it's time to move the toothbrush further back. Try brushing increasing the brushing behind where your gag used to begin. This is your new starting point. Repeat the process as you did in the first spot.
Continue moving the brush further. Each time you move the toothbrush back, your gag has been desensitized in the previous spot. Keep moving it further and further back until you've reached the furthest visual point of your tongue.
Be persistent. This whole process should take approximately a month to complete. When it's all said and done, you should be able to take in more than 6 inches, and an object may reach the back of your throat without you gagging.
Once you have practiced, keep the lips, and throat moist. Now that you won't gag, your partner will immediately notice the change!
Remember, practice makes perfect. Don't do something you feel uncomfortable in doing. This is for those wanting to spice up their love life, and make sure they are pleasing to the fullest capacity.

Step 4Finally, After controlling your reflex, you can then move to technique. Usually a person can't become good at performance because he hasn't control the gag. The ability to evenly saturate your mouth without any saliva spilling over is what will glorify your partner. Moisture, plus, gag control=Happy partner! But most of all, communication is the key to a good relationship, Use your mouth in every way, that's what is there for!

RIP BILL....

Omg so today i get a text that is just some little bits of news, and actor david carradine passed away!

I cant beleive it, most of everyone knows him as bill from kill bill, but those of us who watched tv in the early 90's or so know him as qui chan kane from Kung-fu the legend continues and from the original kung-fu from the 70's or so. He was the actor that replaced Bruce Lee as the lead because they wanted someone that the audience could relate to more than a complete asian.. Some intresting news however is that he wasnt even half asian at all! I remember when I first found that out, I was a little bit shocked lol I thought he was at least some like a quarter or semi asian but nooo hes not even a little bit lol. This news shocked the hell out of me because I had no idea! Then I read a update that says that a maid found him in his room with a rope around his neck and body!!! I hope that he didnt comit suicide, that would really suck major ass! Im sure no one knew that he was sad or whatever, but I know that it does suck soo much because he will be missed soooooo much by everone; old fans and new ones alike will miss him!

Rest in peace... :(

That is all..... for now :)

Sooo much random thoughs rolling around!

Ok, so here we go; the rant is a commin! First and fore most, I read soo many different things online that Ive just got to mention on here lol.
So have you heard about that chick from miachel jacksons thriller video? The girl who was in the blue leport print pedal pushers and jacket with red heels? Well this slow fool decided that she wanted to sue him. Its like really NOW, now after all this time, you want to sue someone over not getting paid for anything lol. Its like damnit, did you smoke up all the "money" you got the first time around? Im so confused on this, also one of the producers, who did thriller and black or white; john landis, he is suing jackson because he never got paid for all the videos he did that brought all that money in. See he has a case, cause he did work, that bish didnt do a damn thing but walk the hoe stroll in the video lol. Moral of this story, you want cash you bet at start dont wait lol

Next rant if you will lol, ya boy diddy, need i say more? Yes damnit, soooo seems like he will snatch up all your monies if you mess with him. I mean really REALLY?? Why do people still mess with this fool? He charges people so many fees so that they dont even know what is happening and at the end of the day they wonder where their money is. So many artists were on badboy that use to be good and lordie they fell off: 112, total, faith, new edition, mase, case, shyine, danity kane, donny klang, you know day 26 is next, he gets so out of pocket that he thinks that hes like god's gift to the world! The hold he has on all the artists is some what short of amazing because they beleive whole heartedly that he is going to be the one who brings them to the top.. Its like noooooooooooooo stupid, a real record label will work with you and try to come up with things that will keep you relevant; ie: a new video, photo spread (with your clothes on) apperences (in worth wild places) things of that nature. Thats also saying that you are an artist with a good record, like you have your club bangers and also your balads and what not but its also saying that people love you as a artist, and that they beleive in your vision of your music. A good artist is hard to find however because most people just want to put out one club banger get the up front cash for it and run a muck with the money they get and forget that when the song is played out that they still have to pay that money back some how, so its like ok, why not try to be the producer and writter for the song, come up with a concepet for the video and get a credit for that, so that you have money comming in from all angles and get to cut out some people in the process.. I figure the more people you get to cut out of the pie the bigger slice for you right??? But no, the kids out there today are more inclined to just get that one hit, which for the most part makes no sense because they have never finished highschool or grade school for that matter and have noclue how to write about anything but getting money or some video ho or whatever the case may be, ok so after you come up with one stupid hit, you have the kids figure, ima make a video that doesent match the song what so ever but ima still get money! NO, you arent and you know why, because if you didnt write the song then the writter is going to get money, if you didnt come up with the concept of the video then that person is going to get moeny, if you have no style what so ever at all, then your stylest get the money, if you have had NO hand in making the video, then you get nothing, and damnit if you work for diddy then all his shit is in the video and FOR DAMN SURE YOU GET NOTHING!

Most people are so starved for attention when they become a artist on badboy that they are willing to say yes to anything, which is how they get you! Its like, you dont read the small print huh? Ok, so if you dont like I know you dont then im going to put all the legal shit i can stick you with in there because i know you wont read it, its also because maybe you cant understand that im going to put a 2 million dollar retainer on it so that if you break your contract with me, you still owe me 2 million plus 5 albums that i know you are never going to make, im going to half ass market you and have you everywhere so that everyone is sick of you so that when your second album comes out, no one is going to buy it and you owe me THAT money as well! But all of this is in the fine print, and I know you arent going to read it, so I will also let you use my car in the video, and I will do you the favor of being in your video and letting you use my house in the video, but what you dont know is that Im going to charge you a fee for all of that as well, and get a big fat tax write off on it and you arent going to see a dime, because its all tied up in the fee's ive charged you! See I know i can keep this up on the entire album because you didnt read the fine print, but its ok, you can come with me on vacation, I will make it better and you will be able to make more money off of the next album I do with you, but this time im going to be on every song, and in EVERY video with you so that I know i can use what ive got to make it better. If more artist read the fine print when dealing with bad boy shit like THIS wouldnt happen, but they get sooo sucked in to working with the all mighty diddy that they just go ok, i will sign!

People wonder why I dont listent to every thing, its because I like REAL artists that have TALENT and know better than to do silly things like that. My point here however is that, if more people who want to "make it" in the music business read the fine print and have GOOD people around then with their BEST intrest in mind, this fool wouldnt be able to suck the life out of them like he does on the regualr!!

I think I missed my calling in life to be an entertainment lawyer lol or maybe just to spread the word lol idk :)

That is all.............. for now :)

ps forgive the miss spelled words..(no spell check where I am lol)

What do you beleive in, and can you prove it?

Soo Kiddies, as some of you may know, I was talking to a guy who I thought had some common sense, but it turned out to be false! I mean the ONLY ONLY plus part about this guy was that he knew how to put down some good oral. I swear he could teach a class on it lol. So Im thinking we could work a little something out, but then today we meet up, kinda last minute and head down town. We go to south street sea port, while we are walking we go past a verizon store, I think and there is a AG (agressive) girl who works there behind the counter near the window, so hes like ehh, and im like what's wrong? He goes I just dont get it, and im like dont get what? (honestly idk what was wrong lol ) he's like I dont get why some women want to look like men, and im like oh you mean the ag? He's like the what, and im like the ag, it means agressive, and im like well she wants to look like a guy so what, like what really is the problem. So we sit down because im tired and now ima little pissed because I dont get what the big deal was about the girl, (btw, she was kinda cute!) so I ask, well what's your view on all gay people? He just starts going off with all this stupid shit about how gay people are just as bad as pedofiles, (what!!) Im like they are two different things, very different things. Hes like gay people arent people, and they dont deserve the same rights as ANYONE else, and im like this is the STUPIDEST SHIT IVE EVER HEARD IN MY ENTIRE LIFE! Hes like gay people shouldnt have kids and that they are brainwashing the kids to be just like them, and im like what the hell are you talking about, every child deserves love from WHOEVER thier parents are, im like gay people are fighting for righs just like black people have been for like forever. Hes like its not the same thing and im like yes it is, its exactly the same thing. His compairsons were just aweful, he compaired gay rights to pedafiles, and people who want to marry thier animals, or whatever and im like i feel sorry for you, because that's not a healthy outlook on life. Hes like oh im not going to change for anyone, and im like you are too fuckin old to be such an ass, (hes 45 btw) I mean i really feel sorry because how can you be so closed off from great people and say some doumb shit like oh i dont mind gay people but they need to stay out of my way because they hit on me, i mean really REALLY! So then after ALL of that, hes like oh can we work past this, im like nigga are you high? im like no, hes like ok, well see you later, and leaves. Good riddence to bad rubbish!!!

Its High time, I look else where anyway, stupid people bore the shit out of me anyway!

That is all....................for now :)

What happens when Diddy is your boss?

So yesterday I'm watching the finale part one or whatever to making the band 4. Danity kane of course is done and diddy has sunk his claws in to dawn and is keeping her in her contract. He claims "if" he puts danity kane back together, she will be the only on left. He just releases everyone out of their contracts and she of course is in shock.

So poor Andrea leaves and went back home i guess, and dawn is like i don't understand why this has to happen. I watched this and I'm like this man will rape everyone who is on his label. I figure that if he see that he can make money off of someone then he will keep them as much as possible. But there have been other groups who have been on that label and have said the same thing. He charges each artist money for whatever he does in THEIR video, I don't think that the artist realize that they get charged soooo much money for him to just stand the hell there!

In the end, however they see SOME money, which isn't much at all because he takes a fee, and then everyone else takes a fee so if the artist isn't the writer or producer or something besides the one singing the freakin song they are just going to be screwed!

Danity Kane-- rip 2009 oh well, guess it sucks to make the band huh?

That is all.........for now :)

Advice....because lord knows I MUST never know what im talking about!

So kiddies yesterday was advice day in the land of my life! One person after another was asking me for relationship advice, I swear it must have been a full moon yesterday or something.

One friend who i speak to on and off again some time for a good while, was telling me of his problem he had. I was asking him how everything was with the girl he was seeing now, because he seemed sooooooo happy with her, he im's me back and tells me that they broke up! That caught me sooo off guard because the last time we spoke he was going to go visit her and was so excited about it. I've never been so shocked in my life lol. He told me that she was "confused" (child im still confused over the situation) about their relationship I guess. I mean he said that they had been talking since September or so and had made plans for them to finally see each other face to face and were both really happy about it. So he tells me he he goes to see her for her birthday and he got her a present and some flowers and what not (hes a good boy :) ) all the right stuff and they spend like a week together or so, and that they were really happy to be together. They went out and talked and he met her family and people and such, he said that they shared some very special time together and what not, and i guess after he got back she said she was confused on what happened and their relationship.

So i was trying to offer him advice on the situation, but truthfully Im still confused on what happened. I don't understand how they both were on the same page as to what the plans were and she gets confused! I mean I really don't know lol, now child don't get me wrong, hes a great person, and im happy we're friends (i still don't know how that happened lol, that's another story lol) I try to tell him not to worry, and don't dwell on something that doesn't work because maybe she just wasn't ready for someone who is as good as he is or who is as focused on a relationship as he is, idk!

Now on to the other people I HAD to give advice to. So my brother,(hi poopoo) went to the barber shop yesterday and got his hair did lol, he sees MY EX there. (why, like he just didn't have NOWHERE ELSE TO GO GET A SHAPE UP) So my brother is trying to be nice and have small talk while he waits to get a shape up, and my ex is talking about life and whatever, and his job and what not. So he starts telling him that he and his girl are on the rocks because of they aren't on the same page with moving or getting an apartment or something that WE HAD ALREADY HAD A CONVERSATION ABOUT.

All of that just proves that I was freaking right on valid points in the relationship that crashed burned and died, and he was WRONG!!!! Hes telling him that most girls think of them selves and that they are selfish and blah blah blah, so my brother was like well.... you kinda lost something good when we broke up, and you started messing with little girls and what not, which is true because if you mess with girls who are young their mind sets are something different then WOMEN who are older; all of which is TRUE!!!!

So later in the night after I figure out how to sync my blue tooth with my phone (trust me it was a issue) I get a phone call from MY EX! (lord why) so hes like "oh can i get some advice" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im like wtf is up with TODAY of all days?? So im like what is it? Hes starts up with, how are you and blah blah, then hes like oh I need to know what would you say my issues are or something to that effect, and im like what? Im like I cant answer that, im like who the hell wants to know. All these tell me about my self questions and shit that is soooo annoying. So I later find out that him and his ex are on the rocks and that they are talking about shit that we talked about and what not and he came to realize NOW that I was right about how to try to compromise with someone if you see a future with them or want to have a future with them.

Lord he got laid in to yesterday, I was like well you don't know how to compromise and you think of your self and are very selfish in that way. I said I think that he isn't ready for a serious relationship with ANYONE, and needs to work on him self, I said that he has a fear of commitment, and that he claims he ready for something real when lord know's he isn't. I also told him that if he wants to have a relationship with any one he has to be willing to listen to the other person and give them time to open up to him, Im like you cant force people to tell you about them selves it just wont work out that way. I also stated that things that aren't relevant to the current relationship should be talked about, like if it honestly has nothing to do with the current situation then it shouldn't be brought up. He really got told about him self and I think that everything I said is hitting close to home because, its starting to make sense and its like wow your right...

Huh, I think the obvious will slap you down one day!!!!!

That is all for now.................. :)