Single life........ The REAL reason.

So me and one of my friends were talking; and I was telling her my thoughts on why the select few of us are single. Now my reason is because, I said we all inspire deep real feelings in folks; now most people if not a good chunk of them are so afraid of it that they go running for the hills. I think that it ends up making them feel like they don't deserve to be happy? I also think its because we all know EXACTLY what we want out of a relationship; weather it be a gay straight or whatever relationship, I think that the other person seems to think that they shouldn't or not able to feel what ever it is that we put out, so they seek folks who are very very VERY dependent on them, who want to be the victim in it so it makes them feel safe.

With THAT being said, now why do folks feel the need to either complain about the relationships they have; or what they cant have. I never understand it. I know a girl who complains about i guess whoever she is/was talking to who decided to go off and do something else and say it was her fault that they were spending time with each other... idk, all i know is that she ended up ranting about it. So my thought on it is, if you mess with these girlies who AREN'T ready for what YOU are trying to offer then why complain about it? If you are so sick about them not understanding YOU and you are trying to change who you are to grow as a person and not just to become someone you're not then why keep messing with the same girls? The whole point of growing as a person is so that you can figure out what YOU really want out of someone who you want to share your life with. If you keep finding the same type of people over and over again are you just fooling your self about trying to change or are you just going with what's safe?

I say try out side of the box, yes getting to know people is always good, but damn it try different things, and don't get in to the habit of trying to know a million folks at once. I think that's another issue folks have, with not being able to take their time in getting to know someone who has great qualities. People get so hung up on trying to find the next big freak that they never get to know the real person deep down. Now with my friends as well as my self, we are people who are always in control so we know how to get to know a person deep down, and get to know the real REAL them, and that in it self scares folks because they are so use to just hearing about what someones favorite position is that they forget how to answer what's your favorite place to go to relax. Trust me if you were to ask a person now a days where they like to go to relax, it would be something stupid like roll a blunt and chill in the club. Sadly people don't know what relax is.. My friends as well as my self know that RELAX means to go someplace like a vacation or a park, or something like that; not go to some damn club where we get all hot and sweaty and what not to RELAX.

So the real question is that are my friends as well as my self doomed to be single forever? NOOOO We are the best singles, who know what we want; who know that when silly folks who REALLY know what the hell that they want will come out of the woodwork!

So until that happens sooner or later; have fun! Safely... ;)

That is all...........For now :)

LIfe as is?

*Side note, yay first blog of 2010**


I have a friend, who is a mother (which I just kinda found out lol) and who no doubt is a great mother. She was going to adopt a child so that her current child who just had a birthday could have a younger sister. I got a few updates about this happening just recently, she found out however that woman that she was adopting from had the baby earlier; and never told her even though Im under the impression that they had an agreement to do so. Understandably, she is upset because the girl didn't tell her that she had the baby, another day goes by; she tells me that she found out that the girl had the baby for a week on facebook ( how messed up is that?) and she claims that she spoke to her after the fact; yet another day passes; so today I hear that she has worked out all the issues and is able to pick up her new daughter from the hospital from the other family. Im happy for her.. I hear however a few hours later that the family of the mother who is giving up the baby stepped in and is blocking the adoption because my friend is gay....

Now Im truly confused because im under the impression when you adopt they would already kinda know your business. I mean she already has a child, which im under the impression that she adopted; and as far as i know is a damn good mother so what is the problem?? I really don't get it, i mean if you are going to adopt then, they interview you to see if you are a fit parent and your living conditions are ok and everything. If being gay is the ONLY thing that is stopping some one from being a parent then that's a fucking shame, one has NOTHING to do with the other. Being gay isn't an excuse for someone to not be a parent, I just don't understand why STUPID folks would use that as an excuse. I don't get it, because if you've adopted before, and the folks you've dealt with have said that you are a fit person to be a parent then what the hell is the problem! I swear my heart broke for her even though it was a text message, I could tell she was so upset, I cant believe that people would put other people through sooo much to adopt a child who just wants parents who love them.

I have no idea what the situation is now, but i hope that they all figure that out since this poor child is in the middle.

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I was watching tv before like earlier in the day and I've kept wondering WHY THE HELL IS EVERY ONE GETTING A REALITY SHOW? I mean there are desperate people that are on vh1 (thank you flavor flav...bastard!) that whore them selves out, all the time; so that their 14:59 doesn't run out! But then we have to deal with all the krap on mtv, and then these teens in the middle of nowhere; with a camera crew,talking about how their life in the mid-west is soooooooooooooooooo hard. I cant, and how much highschool life is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hard as well, Its just one interchangeable teen after another. The "other reality shows" are so horrid-ly done that we all know that its no where near real.. I refuse to watch the city, but know someone who does, and we talk about how "hard life is on the upper east/west side" how one of the girls gets a job in a fashion house "just because shes that good"---**side eye** We all know that she is there just because the camera crew is there, and the real folks are busy in the back working wayyy too hard.

2009 was the year of camera's being up your ass! I know a guy at my job who wants to be famous, but at what cost? He's trying to change his name, even though its still the same just shorter, (i still don't get it LOL) but he doesn't work. I mean how does that work?? Work folks lol

I wanna write more, but I finally got a meee day tomorrow so that's all...........for now :)