So me and one of my friends were talking; and I was telling her my thoughts on why the select few of us are single. Now my reason is because, I said we all inspire deep real feelings in folks; now most people if not a good chunk of them are so afraid of it that they go running for the hills. I think that it ends up making them feel like they don't deserve to be happy? I also think its because we all know EXACTLY what we want out of a relationship; weather it be a gay straight or whatever relationship, I think that the other person seems to think that they shouldn't or not able to feel what ever it is that we put out, so they seek folks who are very very VERY dependent on them, who want to be the victim in it so it makes them feel safe.
With THAT being said, now why do folks feel the need to either complain about the relationships they have; or what they cant have. I never understand it. I know a girl who complains about i guess whoever she is/was talking to who decided to go off and do something else and say it was her fault that they were spending time with each other... idk, all i know is that she ended up ranting about it. So my thought on it is, if you mess with these girlies who AREN'T ready for what YOU are trying to offer then why complain about it? If you are so sick about them not understanding YOU and you are trying to change who you are to grow as a person and not just to become someone you're not then why keep messing with the same girls? The whole point of growing as a person is so that you can figure out what YOU really want out of someone who you want to share your life with. If you keep finding the same type of people over and over again are you just fooling your self about trying to change or are you just going with what's safe?
I say try out side of the box, yes getting to know people is always good, but damn it try different things, and don't get in to the habit of trying to know a million folks at once. I think that's another issue folks have, with not being able to take their time in getting to know someone who has great qualities. People get so hung up on trying to find the next big freak that they never get to know the real person deep down. Now with my friends as well as my self, we are people who are always in control so we know how to get to know a person deep down, and get to know the real REAL them, and that in it self scares folks because they are so use to just hearing about what someones favorite position is that they forget how to answer what's your favorite place to go to relax. Trust me if you were to ask a person now a days where they like to go to relax, it would be something stupid like roll a blunt and chill in the club. Sadly people don't know what relax is.. My friends as well as my self know that RELAX means to go someplace like a vacation or a park, or something like that; not go to some damn club where we get all hot and sweaty and what not to RELAX.
So the real question is that are my friends as well as my self doomed to be single forever? NOOOO We are the best singles, who know what we want; who know that when silly folks who REALLY know what the hell that they want will come out of the woodwork!
So until that happens sooner or later; have fun! Safely... ;)
That is all...........For now :)
2 comments:
Nice point...but I will add...
Most people, from my experience, can't seem to handle what we have with ourselves, which I figure to be stability, both emotional and mental stability. The insecure are attracted to those who are secure, like ourselves, who are stable in these areas But the insecure also are jealous and, in turn, repelled by this very same stability, since they know that don't have it in themselves. Therefore, when they leave us for useless, miserable, co-dependent little girls and boys who make a living on playing the victim, we can't complain. It is just another sign of proof that we, as adults, are far too mature and secure in our own skin for these silly insecure types, and they can't handle us. This should be a sign of the higher level of self-esteem, as well as sense of self that we, as fully rounded adults, possess, and sadly, most people seem to lack. And when they try to attack your self worth by flaunting their bullshit in your face, take it as another sign of their insecurity, and even rejoice--they are showing you how deeply cut they really are emotionally by your emotional stability, and it shows they can't handle pain. And that you deserve bette than the emotional garbage they carry around.
"In front of every potentially great woman is an underdeveloped, mediocre man who won't get out of her way." So true, my friend, so true...
lol GOOOD POINT!!
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